One of the most important things to creating a happy life is to dare to be yourself. Being your true self in all settings and situations is scary but also ultimately empowering and relaxing.
Imagine a life where you no longer have to worry about the perceptions of others. By learning how to be yourself, you are giving yourself to be in control of your life.
Meditation quiets the part of you that judges and labels everything around you. Gain some insight into the real you by meditating regularly.
When you're truthful, you reveal yourself. Be honest about your mistakes and shortcomings.
The true you isn't exactly like everyone else. What music do you listen to when you're alone?
How do you dress?
Do you keep the unique parts to yourself or are you willing to share them with the world?
Using crutches to deal with boredom, anxiety or uncertainty is blocking you from seeing the truth.
What is the purpose of a particular crutch? Stop using it and see for yourself.
When and where do you feel like you're lacking authenticity? Often it will be during interactions with strangers, first dates, new social experiences, and more formal occasions.
A lack of authenticity can also occur when you spend time with your parents and siblings. They just don't seem to want you to change, so you fall back into your old roles.
Think about the times you're inauthentic and ask yourself why.
What do you really enjoy? Do you play on the softball league so you'll fit in? Would you rather be taking rumba lessons? Spend free time on the things that you're most passionate about.
When you dare to be yourself it takes courage. So let's strengthen those courage muscles by learning to do one thing you afraid of.
I'm deathly afraid of heights but I have mustered the courage to jump 18,000 feet out of an airplane and zip lined 90 miles an hour through the jungles of Costa Rica.
Not necessarily all of the time, but give your opinion if it won't hurt anyone. Going to see a movie with some friends?
Tell them the movie you'd most like to see. The family wants to go to the public pool or the park?
Let your opinion be known. Wife wants to know if she looks fat in her dress? Be smart.
An indoor environment is unnatural. The air is heated or cooled. The lighting is artificial. You can't see the sun, hear the birds, or feel the grass beneath your feet.
Get yourself into a more natural environment and you'll find it easier to be authentic.
When you dare to be yourself and your boundaries are weak it can lead to your true self being smothered. These are the places we allow others to determine the rules and set the frame.
You'll know these places by the high amounts of energy they drain from you.
Overcome your need to fit in and impress others. No matter what you do, some people will be impressed and others won't.
Why worry about it? You're an amazing person. Allow yourself to be that person each and every day.